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You say you want stability. So why do you keep creating chaos? You want a successful, sustainable business. You want consistent income, space to breathe and the freedom to do work you actually give a shit about with humans that you are here to genuinely help.
So why do you keep jumping between ideas, changing direction or waiting until things get urgent before you finally take action?
In this episode of It Is That Deep, I’m revisiting my complicated relationship with consistency, discipline and commitment.
As an ambitious woman with ADHD, I’ve spent years resisting structure while simultaneously craving the stability it could give me.
We’re talking about why chaos can feel more familiar than consistency, how we manufacture urgency to get ourselves moving and why another business strategy, accountability buddy or breakthrough isn’t necessarily going to change the way we show up.
I also share the uncomfortable realisation that I had to stop outsourcing my commitment and start learning how to stay with the things that matter to me.
Because commitment isn’t about forcing yourself into some rigid fucking routine. It’s about choosing the life and business you say you want, even when the everyday stuff isn’t particularly exciting. And sometimes, the work isn’t figuring out what to do next. It’s learning how to stay.
Mentioned in this episode: My Threads devotional challenge. Follow along here.
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I’m Ola Kowalska, a Polish woman living in the UK, a PDA mum, business owner and somatic identity coach.
After building a six-figure coaching business and becoming exceptionally good at achieving things (and burning myself out in the process), I started questioning how much of what I called my personality was actually a collection of survival patterns.
Now I help ambitious, highly capable women expand their capacity to enjoy the lives they’re working so fucking hard to build.
On It Is That Deep, I bring you personal stories, dark humour and honest conversations about identity, ambition, womanhood and all the shit we thought was just who we are.