A weekly note for over-functioning, neurocomplex women with somatic tools, honest stories and a different way to think about ambition, motherhood and your own nervous system, so you can stop managing your life from your head and start actually living it in your body.

I hit £20k months in my business and thought that was it, that the freedom I'd been chasing had finally arrived. It hadn't. I burnt out anyway. I spent years thinking my son was the one who needed fixing, then thinking it was my marriage, then thinking it was me as if somewhere there was a version of myself I could finally arrive at and be done. It took me a long time to understand that it was never any one of those things. It was my nervous system and how I move through the world in a body that holds ADHD, childhood trauma and CPTSD.

Understanding that didn't just change how I show up for my son or my marriage. It showed me I don't have to be just one thing, one identity, one fixed way of operating, one story I'm stuck inside of. I contain multitudes and so do you.

My husband used to think all of this was complete bullshit. He'll tell you himself now that something in our home changed, not because I explained it to him, but because he watched it happen. 

My business results from somatic coaching have been absolutely incredible. They included opening up a brave membership in my other business and finally starting this part of my work, too. You can read more about it in a case study my somatic coach wrote beautifully on Instagram. I followed an intense embodied impulse and followed through because I trusted myself. And that's the biggest gift of this work.

I hold a Level 7 executive coaching qualification and am trained in somatics but I don't say that to impress you. The paper matters less than this: I have been to the very dark places myself, and I haven't looked away from any of it: my own fear, my own trauma, my own bullshit. That's the real qualification. People like us can tell who's actually safe to fall apart in front of and who's just pretending to know it all because they have a certificate. I'm not afraid of your story, whatever it is, because I've had to stop being afraid of my own.

 Copyright © 2026 Ola Kowalska Coaching. All rights reserved.